Wednesday, September 12, 2012


I've been gone because my mama's husband is in home hospice care right now and all we can do is  play the distressful waiting game.

We'll be going up there tomorrow for a few days to say our good-byes and share some laughter and tears.

For now though, just doesn't seem right to talk about paint and gardening and whatnot.

You know what I mean?

I'll be back on Monday and we'll talk then.

Make every day count, y'all.



  1. You will do your mamma good. cj and I are having pancakes this morning and we together we will be sending good vibrations.

  2. Love to your family. Hospice (esp. at home) is a blessing ... like home birth! This is a topic close to my heart. I hope to be so lucky when the time comes.

    While my stepdad was in home hospice care, my sister was having a sad day at work and one of her coworkers asked her why. "Because my stepfather is dying," she replied. The woman was shocked and said, "That's awful! You shouldn't say that!" Patty said, "But he is, and I'm sad about it!"

    It was so wonderful to be able to talk to him about where he thought he might be going next, how much we loved him and would miss him, etc. He died on Whitney and Morgan's first day of kindergarten. When I told them after school that Poppa had died, they were sad that I hadn't come to get them out of school "to say goodbye one last time." I explained that I made what I thought was the best choice at the time and sorry if I f**ed up.

    My niece recently started learning to provide home hospice care (a class and a private position).

    I hope your family has a fine time ... I'm sure there will be lots of laughter and tears, no doubt at the same time!!

  3. I'll be praying for you. My Mom died at home while under hospice care, and it was the best experience it can be while watching your Mom die. Its been over 6 years and still gets me. I'm glad he is at home and that you guys are going to be with them. I think that's one of the greater blessings we can give to someone who is dying.

  4. I completely know what you mean, and I'll be thinking of you. My grandma died at home (well, my cousin's home) a few years back. It was such a bittersweet experience. I had to leave before she was gone, knowing that I would never see her again. Walking out that door was one of the hardest things I've done. But it was also so good to have a chance to say good-bye, and for all of us cousins and aunts to support each other as we lost the person who was such a pillar for all of us. Can never truly appreciate the light without shadow. Wishing you peace.

  5. I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you!


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